Tuesday, July 29, 2014

Make Me a Better Parent

Hello Ladies,

One thing that I have learned about parenting is that we must lean on God in order to be the parents we should be. One day my husband and I came across this Prayer and it truly Blessed us. We are not perfect but we truly desire to be better parents with Gods help. I pray that this pray will bless and encourage you as you continue to press toward becoming the parent God has called you to be.

Parents Prayer

O' Heavenly Father, make me a better parent.  Teach me to understand my children, to listen patiently to what they have to say, and to answer all their questions kindly.  Keep me from interrupting them or contradicting them.  Make me as courteous to them as I would have them be to me.  

Forbid that I should ever laugh at their mistakes, or resort to shame or ridicule when they displease me.  May I never punish them for my own selfish satisfaction or to show my power.  Let me not tempt my children to lie or steal.  And guide me hour by hour that I may demonstrate by all I say and do that honesty produces happiness.  

Reduce, I pray, the meanness in me.  And when I am out of sorts, help me, O Lord, to hold my tongue.  May I ever be mindful that my children are children and I should not expect of them the judgment of adults.  Let me not rob them of the opportunity to wait on themselves and to make decision.  Bless me with the bigness to grant them all their reasonable requests and the courage to deny them privileges I know will do them harm.  Make me fair and just and kind.  And fit me, O Lord, to be loved and respected and imitated by my children.


God Bless You and hope to see you this weekend at the FEST!

(Author of prayer is Anonymous)

Monday, July 28, 2014

Single Moms...God is working it out!

Hello dear friends!

I'm going to write this specifically for a group of women.  These women are playing the part of both mom and dad to their children because of divorce or separation or maybe there was no marriage and once you had the child(ren), your boyfriend left.  Perhaps you had a one night stand (can we keep it real?) and you were left with a broken heart and a baby on the way.  This post is for you today.

I am you.  My story is that I got married to the person that I thought was the man of my dreams only to find out very shortly after marriage that he was absolutely the opposite.  He hurt me in a way that no one ever had and no one ever can again.  I have a scar on my heart from that hurt.  And although it heals over, from time to time it gets ripped open again.  From this disastrous marriage, came the greatest blessing.  I had the blessing of being a mom to a very special boy, Emmanuel.  And sometimes, when I'm feeling down or Emmanuel is having a hard day, the scar gets ripped open. 

With that open wound, I'm reminded of my failures.  I'm reminded of the hurt.  I'm reminded of my shame.  I'm reminded of my anger towards my ex-husband.  I'm overwhelmed by the guilt of divorce.  It's a constant... thing.  It never gets easier, it never goes away, it never heals completely.  And it makes me wonder why God allowed this to happen.  Why would a God so good allow hurt like this?

Lately, I've gotten mad again at my ex.  It never seems like he does enough as a parent for our son.  It never seems like he's sacrificing nearly as much as I am to be a parent.  I feel taken advantaged of and I feel sad for our little boy that his dad is not around.
Can anyone relate to this?  Being mad at their ex?  Being disappointed?  Feeling guilty about it because you know you should have never put yourself into the position that you're now in? 

Somehow, and call me crazy, I believe that God is working on me through all of this.  I believe that He is teaching me a lesson about grace, mercy, forgiveness, and love...not only for me but also for my ex.  I believe that Romans 8:28 will be my life verse "And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose." and God has a greater purpose for all of this.  Somehow I believe that, at the end of the day, God will get the glory out of this entire situation.

The key is to hold on to that hope that God is working it out for our good.  The key, for you and I, is to not allow the enemy to sneak into our thoughts and hold this shame over us.  God has already forgiven us.  The key is to not allow the enemy to sneak into our thoughts and make us lose our temper and get so angry that we say and do things that are out of our character and out of God's character. 

And lastly, we need to remember the gift of our children and of being a parent.  God doesn't make mistakes.  The child(ren) you have with that person isn't a mistake.  It's a perfect gift from our perfect Savior.  Truly, God has already worked it out for our good and we see that in the goodness of our children.

So, to all of my single moms who are dealing with an ex, I totally get it.  Let's stay encouraged in knowing that God is a good God and He will get the glory.  Let's stay prayed up so that when the enemy comes with his tricks, we are prepared to fight.  Let's stay in the Bible so we can be reminded of who God is and that He doesn't make mistakes.  And finally, let's forgive.  Let's forgive ourselves for our decisions and let's forgive our ex for their decisions.  Join me in this and let us experience the freedom that is in Christ.

God bless you!


Friday, July 25, 2014

Are You Getting Enough?


Did you know that each person needs at least 7 servings of fruits and vegetables per day?  Are you getting enough servings for you and your family at the grocery store?....... If each person needs at least 7 servings a day, for 7 days, and this is for everyone in your family, figure it out......

Sonia's family = 6 people x 7 servings per day = 42 servings per day x 7 days per week = 294 servings per week. WOW!  That's a lot of fruit and vegetables!

It's hard enough for you and I to get enough fruits and vegetable in.  So, how do we get our kids to eat enough of them?  Here are a few of my tips.

1) Eat them yourself.  You think you do, but do you really?  Track them for a few days and find out.  When they see you eating more (with a smile on your face) they will see you won't die from broccoli overload!

2) Smoothies.  They are all the rage and they taste good.  You can start easy... something like a chocolate, banana, peanut butter smoothie and then as time goes on add in other fruits and potentially vegetables. 

3) Go heavy on the fruits.  I know... fruits have more sugar.  But pick your battles - if you want to drop sugar, get rid of the candy, junk food & pop - NOT the fruit!  I'd rather have them eat all fruits and get some super nutrients than cut them off after 2-3 servings.

4) Know portion sizes.  Measure out ALL the servings at one time and let your kids see that it's really not that much that they have to eat daily.  (Serving Sizes:  1 medium fruit or vegetable, 1 Cup leafy vegetable, 1/2 Cup cooked or raw, 3/4 Cup juice, 1/4 Cup dried)

Want to get fruits and vegetables all at once?  Try a delicious Berry Smoothie

Don't you know that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit, who lives in you and was given to you by God?   1 Corinthians 6:19