Monday, December 31, 2012

Gail Blanke Truly Motivates Me. Hope U Enjoy!!

And by the way, I have "Thrown Away 50 Things," at her recommendation, many times. LOL.  HAPPY NEW YEAR FISH FAMILY!!! ~~~~~Darlene


Well, this is definitely where the rubber meets the road. This is the moment - the dawn of a brand new, fresh, clean, never-before-touched, wide open year. And it’s all yours. No dye has been cast; no promises have been made - or broken. Absolutely anything’s possible. And it’s all yours for the taking, for the creating. So if it were really, really good...what would that look like? I’m not talking a year that’s "not all that bad," or one that’s “at least better than last year.” I mean one that goes down in your history book as great. I know - when you start thinking that boldly, that grandly, a funny thing happens: You hear those voices. “Nothin’that good’s going to happen. Not this year..” Or, “They’ll never let me.” Or, “Hey, I’m good but I’m not that good. I mean, get real.”
So what do we do? We let go. We let go of absolutely anything - emotional or physical - that would drag us down, hold us back, make us feel heavy or depressed or just plain inadequate. And I mean anything. And just to be consistent, I’m asking - as I do at the dawn of every year - that you throw out fifty things. More’s okay, too. (Remember what Miss Piggy says: “More is more...”) And for the record, the objective of this little exercise is not to be voted "most neat and tidy” - it’s to befree.Free to be 100% you, not some weak, watered down version.

And the really good news is that the whole process of letting go of the stuff of the past - is anything but exhausting. In fact, it’s energizing... Here are a few of my favorite New Year's "Free Yourself Up Throw Out’s:"

1. Anything - from a too tight sweater to a too-small view of yourself; from mismatched socks to a mismatched relationship. Seriously, this is the perfect time to let go of those people who remember only the bad times, not the good. You know who they are. Keep your distance...
2. The fear that if you let go of (give away, donate or sell...) the memorabilia you’ve collected over the decades - your mom’s china, your great aunt’s oriental rug - you’ll lose the memories. You won’t. The memories are in your heart, not in the stuff. Let it go. Someone else could use those things right this minute. And wouldn’t that be a good thing?
3. The stuff in the medicine cabinet, like your old makeup...from your old look. And what about old meds from your old illnesses. Why are you keeping that stuff around? Are you waiting for the “bad” thing to come back and get you? Get rid of it. You’re free of the illness now. Don’t invite it back.
4. Assuming the worst. Okay, “they” haven’t answered your email, returned your call or looked at you kind of funny. Don’t make “not knowing” into “not getting.” Assume the best from people, from yourself, from life in general. If you do, you’re much more likely to get it. Studies prove this to be true, btw.
5. Negative typecasting - yourself and others. You know: “I’m just not the type to stand up in front of people and speak" I hear that all the time from the people I work with. (But not for long...) Or, “I’m just not the type to stick to a workout routine, a diet, a budget...or my New Year’s Resolutions.” Who made that up? You did. It wasn’t written on your birth certificate, was it? No. And it’s just not true. Let it go.
6. Asking that wretched question that seems to have taken over the country: “How bad could it get?” And start asking, “How good could I make it?” If you can do just that one thing, you’ll have a terrific year. I’m not kidding.

Look we’ll have to wait 12 more months for another chance like this: to start over, to reinvent, todecide to be free - free of anything that diminishes us or causes us to play small. Finally and once and for all free of that self-imposed straightjacket we've put on every day.Free. To be you, to be me.
Check out my interview with Michel Martin on NPR, January 4th it’s about how “letting go” can bring freedom...and peace in the New Year.

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Sunday, December 16, 2012

MERRY CHRISTMAS! Happy Birthday Jesus.

Each year as we celebrate this time of the year, it is so important to remember why we celebrate.  Technically, we should be celebrating every day of the year because JESUS IS ALIVE!!!  He came to save us.  He is the Ultimate Gift!  No amount of shopping at the mall, SMART technology,  designer clothing or bling can take the place of the Ultimate Gift. 

And if you are blessed enough to have an abundance of money at this time, take a moment to think about those that have less.  There are so many struggling at this time.  While you may be attempting to coordinate your holiday menu, there are some that do not have the option to plan for a spectacular holiday meal.  Please check in with your local churches and shelters...even your neighbors and family members.  You may just be surprised who can benefit from a bit of joy and good cheer from you. 

If you have children, incorporate them in your giving so they grow to understand the meaning of charity and the true meaning of "Good Will To Men" .  And do remember those that have lost precious loved ones, jobs, homes, etc. this year.  Holidays may not be as happy for them as they would like it to be.  They/I need your prayers.  Thank you so very much. 

On the other hand, if you have experienced a lost and you are struggling, consider doing the following:

1) Pray.  Prayer really changes things.  God is with you so please don't give up hope.
2) Share.  Tell others how you are feeling.  Let others know that you do have a need at this time.   As my parents used to say, "Trouble won't last always". Do not think you are being a bother.  The Bible tells us, "You have not because you ask not." Know again, God is always with you and hears your cry but He also puts others in our path at times to uplift those in need so blessings can abound throughout.  One day, you will once again be able to help someone.
3) Network. Call the churches and recreational centers in your area.  You will be surprised to find those that are providing free meals at this time of year and would be happy to have you and your family join in that celebration.  I attended a function at my church last night.  More people showed up than was expected and guess what,the feeling was THE MORE THE MERRIER!  There was so much delicious food and even at the end of the night, there were left overs.  What a joyous time we had eating, laughing, playing games and dancing...Yep, David danced, right? Do what you can to get out of the house, embrace others and let others embrace you.
4) The Arts. What a blessing the Greater Cleveland Area is.  The Cleveland Art Museum is FREE.  Certain events at Playhouse Square this time of year are FREE.  Even getting out to walk downtown's Public Square, the downtown district in your particular area and/or experiencing the art in your neighborhood from those that creatively decorated can be very uplifting.  Touch bases with the theatres and museums in your area to experience FREE or low cost concerts and events in your specific area.  REMEMBER, (and I shared this a while back so check out our Archives) but one of the best ways to see various events at no cost, is to volunteer your time!  It is another way to meet great people, see great places and see spectacular events....FREE!